January, 2004
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Edited
by Carol Shumate and Walter Smith
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Board
Meetings 2004
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2nd Mondays every other month
January 12, March 8, May 10, July 12
Bring
a snack
All members welcome
4131 Settlement Drive, Durham,
NC
Contact MCB
for directions
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Training |
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Now
In The Triangle
MBTI®
Qualifying Training
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Delivered By Roger Pearman, Ed. D.
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Feb. 24-25,2004 • 8 am - 5 pm
SAS • 100 Campus Drive • Cary , NC •
$645 •
919-677-4444
Registration Deadline • Jan. 24th
Triangle
residents now have a unique opportunity to get qualified in RTP,
with a two-day workshop offered at a very special rate, hosted by SAS
Institute. Best-selling
author, researcher, and trainer Roger
Pearman will deliver a blended learning workshop for a limited
audience.
In order to
keep the workshop to two days, the training is designed to include
both pre-training and post-training exercises online. The fee
includes web classroom, manuals, supporting publications, workshop
materials, reports, and faculty support.
Prework:
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15-20
hours in Qualifying.org
web classroom exploring Theory, Construction, Administration,
and Psychometrics
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online
self-tests for immediate learning feedback
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web and
direct faculty support before, and for six months following,
training
Onsite:
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2-day
Interpretation and Applications workshop training best practice
use
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national
examination
To
register, click here for the form or e-mail info@qualifying.org
or call 336.774.0330.
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Program |
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Linking
The Eight Functions
to Emotional Intelligence
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Delivered By Roger Pearman, Ed. D.
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Feb.
24• 6:30 - 9 pm
SAS Institute • Building F, Rm. 101 • Cary , NC
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Use of one's mental resources is an expression of the range of
one's emotional intelligence (EQ). The more resources one uses, the more thorough and
effective the response. To
maximize expression of type to enrich EQ, one needs a functional
framework. Roger
Pearman will explore the basic links between EQ and type by
looking at the everyday uses of the eight functions within the
emerging framework of emotional intelligence.
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Pearman is the first type authority to research, publish, and
consult utilizing this linkage.
The head of Leadership Performance
Systems and Qualifying.org, Pearman is the only person awarded both the Isabel Briggs Myers' Research Award and the Mary McCaulley Lifetime Achievement Award. He
is a past-President of APT and best-selling author of five books related to
type, type and leadership, and type and emotional intelligence.
He is a Senior Adjunct Trainer, Researcher and Feedback
Coach at the Center for Creative
Leadership.
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$15
– members and students
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$25
– nonmembers
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$45
– yearlong membership + this program ($10 savings)
Registration: Send check to APT/RTP, along with name, address, phone, email, to:
Jan Burke, APT Treasurer, 306 Swiss Lake Drive, Cary, NC 27513. For registration questions, contact her at 919-468-8060 or
coachjan2003@yahoo.com.
Directions: Take exit
#287 off I-40 onto Harrison Avenue in Cary. Take the first left at the stoplight into
SAS.
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Winter
Social |
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All
members invited to
APT-NC's Winter Social |
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Tuesday,
Jan.
27 • 6:30 - 9 pm
Clubhouse
of Ashley Park at Brier Creek
10300 Pine Lakes Court •
Raleigh, NC
Bring
a dish to share and be ready for a surprise program. Beverages will be provided.
Directions:
From I-40, take I-540 to exit 4B (Durham/US 70W). At first light turn left onto
Brier Creek Parkway. Take immediate right onto Little Brier Creek Parkway.
Ashley Park is on the right. Coming from Raleigh on 70, Brier Creek is just past the airport. Bob Evans and Dick's Sporting Goods will be visible on
left. Turn left onto Brier
Creek Parkway. Map
available here. |
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Article |
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What
is the
Communication Wheel™? |
By Walter
R. Smith, INFJ
Certified Interpreter |
Have you ever had a
compliment that embarrassed you? Or did you ever say something that inadvertently that hurt
someone’s feelings? You might have been experiencing
type-related miscommunication. Because of our differing
personality types, we speak different languages even though we all
speak English. If we are to understand each other we need to
understand how the language of each type differs, and that is
where the Communication Wheel™ can help.
The Communication Wheel™ was developed by
Henry L. (Dick)
Thompson, Ph.D., and is based on the MBTI™. It proposes that
there are four basic languages that we speak: Intuitive, Sensing,
Thinking, and Feeling. We use all of these languages, but we have our preferences.
The Intuitive language is primarily concerned with expressing
ideas and possibilities. The
Sensing language is a detailed language that communicates specific
information. The
Feeling language expresses warmth and is concerned mostly with
other people. The
Thinking language is a logical language.
The Sensing and Intuiting languages are opposites, and, therefore
it is difficult for a Sensor and an Intuitive to understand each
other. The former
communicates facts while the latter communicates ideas. To the Sensor, the Intuitive person has his or her head in
the clouds. To the
Intuitive, the Sensor is a “stick in the mud” for details.
Sergeant Joe Friday of Dragnet was a Sensor:
“Just the facts ma’am,” he would tell a woman giving
him her ideas of who killed the victim.
The Thinking and Feeling languages are also opposites making it
difficult for a Thinker and Feeler to understand each other. The Feeler talks in terms of people and values while the
Thinker is detached and speaks logically. To the Feeler, the
Thinker is cold-hearted and uncaring. To the Thinker, the Feeler is a “bleeding heart
do-gooder” who has no sense of what it takes to do good for
others. Mr. Spock of
Star Trek comes to mind while Counselor Deanne Troi portrays the
Feeler as well as an Intuitive.
An example of type talk
was illustrated for me by one of my instructors (an ENFP) in the
MBTI Qualifying program. She
related the time that she and her ISTJ husband were working in the
garden. After six
hours of work, she felt so close to him that she went to him,
threw her arms around him, gave him a big kiss, and said,
“Honey, I feel so close to you, I love you, and I am so glad I
married you.” To
which he replied, “What?” She knew she had not spoken his language. Six weeks later they had the same experience only this time
she went up to him, did not touch him, and said, “Honey, I ‘m
impressed. You laid
out all of the gardening tools we would need and in the order in
which we would need them, you had all of the fertilizers and other
ingredients ready to use, and because of your efficiency we got
through two hours earlier than I thought we would.” To which he replied, “Thank you, honey,” and he gave
her a big hug and kiss.
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She said,
“Honey, I feel so close to you, I love you, and I am so glad I
married you"--- to
which he replied, “What?” |
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The four languages can be subdivided into dialects that are formed
by combining the dominant and auxiliary functions. For example, an ENFJ has a dominant function of Intuition
and an auxiliary of Feeling. The
dialect for an ENFJ would be Intuitive-Feeler. You will first hear ideas from an ENFJ and then you will hear how the ideas
apply to his or her values. I am an INFJ. My dominant function is
Intuition but because I am an introvert my auxiliary (Feeling) is
the one that is shown to the world and also the first language
that I will use. Therefore,
my dialect is Feeling-Intuitive. When I greet you, I will usually
begin with warm words wanting to know how you are. Then, I might
share my ideas, if I trust you—remember I ‘m an introvert.
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NF-Intuitive Feeling
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NT-Intuitive Thinking
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SF-Sensate Feeling
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ST-Sensate Thinking
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TS-Thinking Sensate
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TN-Thinking Intuitive
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FS-Feeling Sensate
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FN-Feeling Intuitive |
The Communication Wheel™ is a one way to learn about
psychological type quickly. In less than three hours people can
grasp and use the basic structure of type and language. If we can identify and match the language type another
person is using, we are more than likely to get our point across
and to have minimal misunderstandings. I find that when people go through a Communication Wheel
workshop they are more open to spending the time it takes to
understand the MBTI™.
For further information on this topic, contact Walter Smith at Lifeweb3@aol.com
or see the website for Dick Thompson’s company, High Performing
Systems
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Book
Review |
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Out of the
Box:
Exercises for Mastering the Power of Type to Build Effective
Teams
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Charles R.
Martin and Thomas J. Golatz
CAPT •
Gainesville,
FL • 2003
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Workbook
binder with CD/ROM of reproducible masters/handouts ~ $79.95
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There is something new when using Type in
team building sessions. Charles R. Martin and Thomas J. Golatz
have included a lot of exercises primarily intended for
intermediate and advanced Type users who are trainers, OD
consultants, and HR professionals. The exercises are practical and
they have a real-life orientation to personality type and team
building.
Out of the Box: Exercises for Mastering the Power of Type to Build
Effective Teams begins with brief overviews of type preferences,
type dynamics, and team type analysis. The major portion of the
workbook contains adaptable, ready-to-use exercises designed to
improve team performance and productivity. Step-by-step
instructions and tips for facilitating and debriefing accompany
each exercise.
The Exercises section is divided into three
parts. Samples of each section (with preferences) are listed
below:
The Basic Exercises |
“Contributions of the Judging and Perceiving
Styles
to Team Performance"
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J-P
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“Why Do Team Building?”
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S-T, S-F, N-F, N-T
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Hidden
Beliefs and Trying Out Our Non-preferences
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“Is What We Believe About Our
Opposite True?”
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E-I, S-N, T-F, J-P
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“What
Stories Am I Telling Myself? How Our
Beliefs Lead Us to
Respond to Type Differences”
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All types
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The Missing Types
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“Hmm . . . Something’s Different: Assessing the
Impact of a Missing Dominant Function”
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S, N, T,
and F
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“Where’d the Corners Go? Impact of the
Missing
TJs” |
T-J
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When I applied the S-N exercise on giving and receiving
instructions to the task of making a photocopy,
I found that three sensors gave me the specifics of the act of
making a photocopy, while the intuitive covered the whole process from
arriving at the machine to leaving it with the photocopy.
Review
by Mary Charles Blakebrough
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The
Light Side of Type |
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Mars, Mary, and
Benjamin
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By
Walter R. Smith, INFJ |
Type-Spotting
in Fiction: Test your
type-spotting power on this piece below.
Also, send the Editors your own choices—selections from your
reading that demonstrate Sensing, Intuiting, Thinking, Feeling, or other
type qualities—and we’ll give you a byline. |
Benjamin Stuart and his
wife Mary have been married for twenty-five years. They have a
good marriage, two children in college—a boy and girl, and both
would say that they are more in love today than when they first
got married, but neither could understand why they still felt, on
many occasions, that they were ships passing in the night.
“What are we going to look at tonight, Mary?” Benjamin asked
his Ph.D. astrophysicist wife as they were eating diner.
“Earth and Mars are the closest they have been to each other in
50,000 years,” she replied. “It is a good chance to see Mars
like we’ve never seen it before.”
"What’s so important about Mars?”
“Mars has a diameter of 4200 miles, the Earth is 8100 miles, and
the moon is 2200 miles. Earth’s orbit around the sun is circular
while Mars’ orbit is eccentric so the distance between Mars and
the Sun varies by 1/5 during its year. Mars is also 140 million
miles away from the Sun while Earth is only 93 million miles
making the temperature a lot colder than on Earth.
In the daytime the temperature is -5◦C and at night
its -85◦C. The
force of gravity on Mars is exactly 38% of that of earth. While
our day is twenty-four hours long, a Mars’ day is twenty-four
hours and forty minutes, and there are 687 Earth days in the
Mars’ year,” Mary answered.
Benjamin stared at Mary. He looked dazed. 'Darn,' she thought. 'I
overwhelmed him with facts again.'
When they arrived at the
observation site, Mary set up her Meade Starfinder
Equatorial 16"/1830mm f/4.5 Newtonian Reflector Telescope
with Motorized German-Type Equatorial Mount. While she was putting in the computer coordinates so
they could follow Mars as the earth rotated, Benjamin gazed at the
stars without a scope.
"Benjamin, come and look at Mars through the scope," Mary
called.
Benjamin now seemed to be in a trance. "It's beautiful,"
he said. "I feel at home with the stars."
"I know," she said. "It's almost as if you're
homesick when I call you back down to earth."
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President's
Corner |
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Gratitude
For Good Things
Past, Present and to Come |
By
Carol Linden, ENFP |
At the beginning of the New Year, I
find myself experiencing gratitude for good things past,
good things present, and good things to come.
I’m delighted to be able to inform you
that the RTP/APT chapter is one of the strongest in the
country and can therefore afford to produce
top-notch programs at a very affordable price to our membership.
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"Our
chapter stands on a very solid financial footing." |
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Our
financial success is due in large part
to the high quality of the speakers who lead our programs.
We bring to the Triangle the most renowned
speakers, trainers, and authors working in the field of
type, people whose fame extends well beyond the type
community. Sondra
VanSant who gave our fall workshop is a columnist with USA
Today as well as being nationally renowned in academic
circles for her work in career counseling and education.
Roger Pearman, who is bringing a qualifying training to us
as well as an evening presentation in February, is a
best-selling author whose books include I’m Not
Crazy, I’m Just Not You and Hardwired
Leadership.
We have also been blessed in this chapter by wonderful
leaders on the Board. Editors Carol Shumate and Walter
Smith ever so faithfully and effectively handle our
communications and put out a very professional newsletter.
Kerry Ahrend Williams, our new secretary, records our
deliberations in a way that clarifies our decisions and
makes them available promptly.
Tracy Daley continues to provide us with
outstanding programming, and I’m very pleased that Dawn
Scott-Raxter has joined her to help carry the load. Jan
Burke, our new treasurer, provided us with an impressive
financial statement that lets the board know exactly what
our options are and how we can move forward to serve the
chapter effectively. (And, you can imagine how impressed a
board filled with NF’s was with such a report.
Financial clarity on that scale looks like sheer
magic to me, ENFP that I am.)
Our membership co-coordinator, Elizabeth Wolgin, is
re-vamping our records and bringing us into the 21st
century in our mailings and communications. Krista Babbitt
has come onboard to serve as Incoming President and has
been already very involved with the Qualifying Training in
February. And, last but not least, Mary Charles
Blakebrough, our Past President, is an ever-present source
of wisdom and support. She hosts the board meetings and
provides a location for us all to gather and enjoy and
serve together.
We have some wonderful
surprises for you in the New Year and I invite you all to
attend our January social and celebrate our good fortune
together.
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Workshop
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Wired
for Conflict
Sondra
VanSant’s Fall Workshop
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Reviewed
by Carol Linden, ENFP
& Carol Shumate, ENFP
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“The
attitudes are key in how we react to conflict.”
So said renowned trainer, author, and career counselor
Sondra VanSant in the conflict resolution workshop on October 25th.
Grouping
the workshop participants by attitude:
EJ, IJ, EP, and IP, she instructed them to pantomime their
habitual mode of dealing with conflict in interaction with the
other groups. The
EJ’s barreled across the room to confront head on their opposite
group. The IP’s
decided to leave the room, but they came back when they
felt ready to deal with the conflict.
The EP’s gave a mixed message. The IJ’s simply avoided the situation. Afterward, the
groups shared with each other what is the best way for others to
respond to their preference when in a conflict situation.
VanSant
identified some blind spots in the types with reference to the
functions. Sensing-
Thinking
types may decide on a solution too quickly, or may not express
appreciation while offering a critique. One Sensing Thinking type
in the audience observed that a sore spot with her staff was the
fact that she didn’t say “Good morning” to them when she
arrived at the office. It
never occurred to her that this could matter to them.
When she realized that it did, she added it to her
permanent ‘to-do’ list. The lesson: we need to be open to
whatever it takes to help us flex.
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One Sensing
Thinking type in the audience observed that a sore spot with her
staff was the fact that she didn’t say “Good morning” to
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Sensing-Feeling types may ignore
their own feelings as clues to the nature of the problem.
Intuitive-Feeling types may accommodate too quickly and
resent it later. Intuitive-Thinking
types may view argument as objective debate while others take it as
personal criticism.
VanSant
also illustrated the distinctive ways in which Js and Ps approach
deadlines—the source of many conflicts in personal and business
environments. While everyone
starts out on a task with maximum energy, P’s will peak and then lose energy
for the task almost immediately, postponing it until the last moment and
peaking again only at the deadline itself.
The J’s on the other hand will work steadily on the task until
completed. In a teamwork
situation, J’s can get panicked by the Ps’ approach.
The solution is to provide P’s with multiple milestones, or
mini-deadlines, to be monitored on the way to completion. That way, P’s have
multiple energy peaks and the J’s don’t panic when they don’t see overt
progress being made. The J gets off the P’s back, and everyone survives the
ride better.
In some circumstances,
the MBTI may not be helpful. Its
use is contraindicated if one party wants to talk about type and the other
does not. It may also not be
helpful if the parties do not agree on the level of importance of the
conflict. Finally, it will not be
helpful if it is allowed to be used to intellectualize the issue rather than
to validate feelings.
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Problem-Solving
with Type
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Extraversion
• Give time to discuss problem
• Since Extraverts like to problem-solve by
talking, the first solution presented may not be the final
one.
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Introversion
• Give time to think about the problem.
• Do not expect an immediate answer.
They may prefer to write rather than talk about it.
• Encourage them to share.
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Sensing
• Focus on the specific facts and details of the
problem.
• Be concrete, practical, and realistic in making
suggestions.
• Present the problem clearly and concisely.
Do not beat around the bush—come straight to the
point.
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Intuition
• Focus on the implications and meaning of the
situation.
• Present solutions
that are creative,
innovative, and future-oriented.
• Present the big picture.
Do not get hung up on all the details.
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Thinking
• Allow them to analyze the problem and present a
logical perspective on the solution.
• Don’t personalize the situation.
Present the facts, be objective, discuss the issues,
and brainstorm possible solutions.
• Encourage them to express their views.
Ask them, “What do you think about the situation?”
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Feeling
• Ask how they are feeling about the situation or
possible solutions.
• Allow them the opportunity to acknowledge their
personal reaction to their perspective before asking them to
move to logical analysis.
Restate their position back so they feel heard.
• Begin by talking about areas of agreement to
establish harmony.
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Judging
• Present the problem and suggested solutions in
an organized manner.
• Recognize and acknowledge their need for
closure.
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Perceiving
• Recognize that they like flexibility and a
variety of options.
• Present several possible solutions to the
problem and allow them to choose.
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c. 2003, Sondra VanSant, Wired for
Conflict, Gainesville, FL: CAPT. Used with permission.
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Note
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Triangle
Type publishes four times a year:
January, March, May and October.
Submissions should be sent 30 days ahead to the Editors, Carol
Shumate and Walter Smith,
Book reviewers will be reimbursed for the cost of the book (up to
$30). Please recommend buy/no buy for the APT/RTP library (Please
see the APT-RTP website for
current contents of the library, available to chapter members).
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Become
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To
receive program discounts, join the RTP Chapter for only $30/year.
Send a check for $30 to Jan Burke, APT
Treasurer, 306 Swiss Lake Drive, Cary, NC
27513, or contact her at 919-468-8060
New
Student Membership Fee:
$20/year |
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Reading
Preferences Quiz Results |
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Click
Here
For The Results |
**This
is not a scientific poll. The numbers under each type refer to the number
of responses from that type. |
1. What is your
4-Letter Type?
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2. Do you buy or
borrow books?
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3. Hardback or
paperback?
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4. What kinds of
reading do you prefer? (Mark
X beside answers)
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~ Quality
literary fiction
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~ Thrillers
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~ Romance
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~ Fantasy
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~ Historic Novel
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~ Sci Fi
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~ History
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~ Biography
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~ Self-Help
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~ Spiritual
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~ Other:
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5. Do you belong
to any book clubs?
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6. How many hours
per week do you read?
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7. Do you
multi-task while reading (i.e., watch TV, eat, work out)
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8. Do you
highlight or underline?
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9. Do you dog-ear
pages?
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10 Do you
finish a book even if you don’t especially enjoy it?
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11. Which book or
books do you recommend to others?
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12. How do you
choose a book? (Mark X beside answers)
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~ Author
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~ Title
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~ First Line
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~ Book jacket
blurb
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~ Recommended by
others
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Board
Member Profiles |
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Each
issue of the our newsletter highlights two members of the APT/RTP Board
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Krista
Babbitt, ENTJ |
President-Elect |
Three
years ago Krista married her never boring husband, Michael (INFP).
“Understanding Type helps us to negotiate our
differences,” Krista said. “Each of our primary
functions is the other's inferior function, so when we're both in
“the grip” (under stress) we give new meaning to the word ‘downward
spiral.’” She feels fortunate that Michael has attended
several APT-RTC functions so that they could learn together about
one of her favorite subjects. Krista
recently took up the sensory
hobby of gardening. “I don't seem to have much sense of
form, space, or color, but my extraverted third
function, Sensing, is getting a workout as I focus on every
garden book and garden within my reach,” she said.
Krista
is a business analyst in the Operations group of SAS where
she is responsible for performance management and
communications within the Corporate Services Division (400+
people), and where she gets to do team training using the
MBTI. Her pastor also
wants her to use Type as a complementary tool to his
next sermon focus, which
is on empowering people by helping them to identify and use their
God given gifts and talents to glorify God. She
is looking forward to taking many of her fellow church members
through the MBTI.
“The
Research Triangle Chapter of APT has been special to me particularly
through the years when I had little opportunity to use Type
in my work; the chapter helped me to keep my skills
alive. I am honored to
be on the Board again,” Krista emphasized.
Elizabeth
Wolgin, INFP |
Membership
Chair |
Elizabeth
is
a Human Resources Manager at Cisco Systems in
Research
Triangle
Park
where she is responsible for
providing Executive Coaching, Leadership Development and
Organizational Design & Development consulting to the Sales
organization. Before coming to Cisco, she worked in Human
Resources at Nortel Networks supporting several areas of the
business including Engineering, Marketing and Sales.
Elizabeth
collaborates with her clients
to apply organizational development theories to their business
issues. She enjoys working with clients on change initiatives,
organizational diagnosis and training and development. She is MBTI
qualified and enjoys delivering MBTI workshops to intact work
teams as well as to individuals in one-on-one career coaching
sessions. Elizabeth
lives in Durham
with her husband Neal and her
daughter Hannah.
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APT
Board Members |
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President, Carol Linden ENFP | e-mail
President-Elect,
Krista Babbitt ENTJ | e-mail
Programs, Tracey Daley INFJ | e-mail |
www.
wellspring-consulting.com
Programs, Dawn Scott-Raxter ISTJ | e-mail
Co-Communications, Carol Shumate ENFP | e-mail
| Writestyles.com
Co-Communications, Walter R. Smith INFJ | e-mail
Secretary, Kerry Ahrend Williams ENFP | e-mail
Treasurer, Jan Burke ENFJ | e-mail
Membership, Elizabeth Wolgin INFP | e-mail
Past President, Mary Charles Blakebrough ENFP
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Ex-officio, Karen Ridout (SE Regional President) INFJ | e-mail
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wellspring-consulting.com
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About
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